73. Embrace Your Feminine Energy: Finding Balance, Self-Compassion, and Flow with Petia Kolibova-Burns
- Brittany Miller
- Oct 8, 2024
- 14 min read
Updated: Dec 6
Feminine energy is not a trend or a buzzword—it's a practical, powerful way to align your inner life with your work, family, and creative output. In this conversation on the Go Get Great podcast with host Brittany (that's me!) and guest Petia Kolibova-Burns, we explore why so many of us are hard on ourselves, how perfectionism and imposter syndrome keep us stuck, and simple, grounded practices to invite more feminine energy into daily life and business.
Whether you’re a mother, a small business owner, or simply someone who wants to show up with more ease and clarity, this guide will help you understand what feminine energy feels like, how to balance it with healthy masculine energy, and practical steps to move from hustle to flow.
If we haven't met yet, I’m Brittany, an online marketing strategist for female entrepreneurs. I teach women how to make their entrepreneurial dreams a reality through smart, actionable marketing strategies that get them seen, loved, and paid. Whether you’re eager to DIY your way to success or hire professionals to help you along the way–my goal is to make sure you walk away with the clarity you need to see the results you desire and build a life you love.
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Why this matters now
We live in a culture wired for constant doing: more tasks, more achievements, more visible success. That pressure creates a landscape where being hard on yourself becomes normal. You might relate: you wake up with a list of demands, you scroll before your coffee, and you measure your worth by how many things you “get done.” Feminine energy offers a different route—one that gives you permission to slow down, to receive, to be creative, and to lead from your whole self rather than from scarcity and stress.
This article pulls together personal stories, practical rituals, mindset shifts, and embodied practices discussed on the podcast so you can begin to integrate feminine energy into your life in realistic, sustainable ways. We’ll also cover how to spot wounded masculine or wounded feminine patterns, how to create a nourishing daily rhythm, and how to parent or partner with more compassion and presence.
Meet the voices behind the conversation
The conversation is rooted in the experience of two women who live the messy, beautiful reality of entrepreneurship and motherhood. Host Brittany is a digital marketing coach and podcast host balancing three kids with running a business. Guest Petia Kolubova is a business mentor for female entrepreneurs, trained in breathwork, reiki, NLP, and human design. Petia’s journey from a small town in the Czech Republic to a life of coaching, certifications, and guided inner work informs her message: you are perfectly made for your purpose, with all your quirks and imperfections. Connect with Petia on Instagram.
That message—“you are perfectly made for your purpose”—is a throughline. The invitation is to move away from trying to fit a mold based on other people’s expectations and toward embracing a unique way of being that attracts the right people, opportunities, and income.
Being hard on yourself: what it looks like and where it comes from
One of the most honest moments in the conversation was Petia describing how moving to a new country left her holding an internal narrative of not being good enough. Accent, grammar critiques, and early experiences of othering layered into imposter syndrome. She shared a common pattern: the more we feel judged or small, the more we strive to "fix" ourselves to match someone else’s standard.
Perfectionism often shows up as:
Overthinking before launching a project
Delaying because something needs to be “perfect”
Comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel
Allowing criticism to become an identity—“I’m not professional enough,” “I messed up again”
Perfectionism and imposter syndrome are rarely born purely from personal failures. They often carry cultural, familial, or societal messages we internalized. As Petia pointed out, many limiting beliefs aren’t even ours—they are received messages about who we should be or how we should act. Recognizing the origin of these messages is the first step to freeing yourself from them.
Perfectionism and parenting: the ripple effect
Parenting offers a mirror: we see how our own inner critic influences the next generation. The episode shares an observation that’s both tender and urgent—children don’t naturally criticize themselves until they are taught, modeled, or socially conditioned to do so. Petia and I talk about seeing a five-year-old with perfectionist tendencies and feeling alarmed: where did she learn to be so hard on herself?
If you want your children to grow into adults who can take creative risks and be resilient, your inner work matters. You don’t need to be perfect to parent well—what matters is presence, curiosity, and the modeling of self-compassion. Choosing to ask yourself, “Would I want my child to feel or think like this?” becomes a powerful litmus test for changing habits that don’t serve you or your family.
From “go, go, go” to creating space: reclaiming feminine energy
One of the pivotal ideas we discuss is that we are culturally trained to be always on the go—that’s the masculine imperative in action. Feminine energy is the counterbalance: she receives, she senses, she moves through creativity and intuition. Feminine energy is chaotic, sensual, receptive, and expansive. It is not antithetical to success; it is a different path to it.
Some key characteristics of feminine energy discussed in the episode:
Receptivity — opening to receive opportunities, help, and ideas
Creativity — trusting flow and inspiration
Sensuality — grounding in the body and the senses to access insight
Spaciousness — creating time and room to incubate rather than forcing outcomes
Emotional awareness — allowing feelings to be processed rather than immediately fixed
Petia’s practical mantra—“you are perfectly made for your purpose”—is designed to help you internalize that your quirks and imperfections are the very things that will magnetize your people. When you are more of who you are, the right people will find you; the rest won’t matter.
Practical rituals to invite feminine energy into your daily life
Feminine energy thrives on ritual and sensory attunement. The episode offers easy, accessible practices that can be scaled depending on your season of life—whether you have two hours to yourself or five minutes between pump sessions and diaper changes.
Daily rituals (for every schedule)
Start small: ask three gentle morning questions — What am I excited for today? What is one thing I will do for myself? What am I grateful for?
Create sensory anchors — light a candle, open a window, put gentle oil on your wrists, or use a calming scent during a five-minute pause.
Ground into the elements — go barefoot on grass when you can, take a shower focusing on sensations, or sit with a cup of tea and notice temperature and taste.
Carry a notebook for “shower notes” — inspiration often strikes in unlikely moments; capture it before it disappears.
Micro-practices for busy parents and entrepreneurs
Five-minute heart check — place a hand on your chest, breathe for five full breaths, ask: “What does my body want right now?”
Pump-and-create windows — if you’re a nursing mother or have small windows of downtime, use one focused 10-20 minute sprint to capture creative ideas or write a caption instead of numbing out with endless scrolling. This was super helpful for me when I was post-partum.
Nature reconnection — if possible, step outside and let fresh air hit your face for a few minutes. Even a moment reconnects you to your senses and invites feminine energy.
Seasonal adjustments
Petia emphasizes that seasons change: sometimes your “rising” can be two hours of ritual, and other times it is five minutes. The feminine invites you to be realistic about your season and to honor what’s possible. Rather than forcing a routine that doesn’t fit, ask: what would receptivity look like in this season?
Understanding the masculine: healthy vs wounded
Balance is not about replacing one energy with the other. Instead, balance is about knowing what each energy does and learning to move between them. The podcast highlights the difference between healthy masculine energy and wounded masculine energy.
Healthy masculine energy:
Provides structure, protection, and clarity
Holds space calmly and decisively
Is focused and disciplined without the need to prove worth
Wounded masculine energy:
Operates from scarcity: needing to prove, hustle, and control
Pushes constantly without rest and measures worth by output
Can show up as perfectionism, proving, and overworking
Recognizing whether you are operating from a healthy or wounded masculine allows you to choose different actions. Healthy masculine gets to say, “I will handle this task and protect the space for the creative feminine to receive.” Wounded masculine says, “If I don’t do it perfectly, everything will fall apart.”
How to balance masculine and feminine energy practically
Here are actionable ways to invite both energies in a complementary way so you are neither constantly hustling nor forever adrift:
Decide your daily anchor. In the morning, choose one question to orient your day: a feminine prompt (What am I excited for?) or a masculine prompt (What is the one thing I must accomplish?).
Use time-blocking, but leave breathing room. Schedule focused work windows (a masculine structure), then schedule unstructured creative time (a feminine invitation).
Practice embodiment. If you’re too in your head, add physical movement to the start of the day. If you’re too pushy, add a sensory ritual to soften.
Notice your body’s cues. Petia explains that your body often leads with curiosity—follow it. If your chest tightens, slow down. If your heart opens, pursue the idea with gentle attention.
Embodied practices: how the body leads and why that matters
A crucial insight in the episode is that your next steps are often guided by the body, not just the mind. We’re taught to over-intellectualize decisions—anxiety, planning, and overthinking—when often a felt sense will guide you more truthfully.
Simple embodied practices:
Five breaths to the heart — slow inhales and longer exhales focusing on the heart center.
Body scan — notice where tension lives and ask it what it needs.
Movement to clarify — a short walk or a few yoga poses can unlock clarity when thinking becomes stuck.
Petia encourages following curiosity and the small breadcrumbs life hands you. Inspiration is not a rare occurrence—it’s a river. You don’t have to force the bank; you just need to notice the current and follow it. That’s how feminine energy translates into creative output and soulful success.
How to tell if you’re too much in the feminine (and what to do)
We don’t only live in a world that overvalues masculine energy—some people may swing the other way and find themselves too surrendered or unstructured. If you’re too much in the feminine, you might notice:
Difficulty following through on plans
Inconsistent marketing, posting, or showing up for clients
Resistance to structure even when structure would help
Fixes for an over-feminine tilt include practical masculine habits:
Create a simple plan: three tasks for the day and one priority to complete.
Use embodiment for discipline: a brief movement practice that signals “we start now.”
Ask the masculine question: If I do only this one thing, what will be different?
How to tell if you’re too much in the masculine (and what to do)
If you’re living in wounded masculine patterns, you may see:
Constant hustling and proving
Burnout from repeated “push” cycles
Difficulty receiving help or delegating
To rebalance toward feminine energy:
Introduce sensory rituals—light a candle, use a favorite scent, or take a micro-nature break.
Practice receptivity—let someone else make a decision for a moment, or accept help without guilt.
Move into curiosity—ask a playful question and follow small impulses rather than always planning.
Mindset shifts that create long-term change
Rituals and practices are powerful, but they work best when supported by mindset shifts. The episode emphasizes several shifts that move you from self-criticism to self-compassion and from reactive hustle to soulful creation.
Key mindset shifts
You are perfectly made for your purpose. Your quirks are not liabilities; they are the magnet that draws your people.
Most limiting beliefs aren’t yours. Identify the messages you absorbed and choose which to keep.
Seasons shift—your routine can too. You don’t have to force one rhythm forever.
Parenting is an amplifier—use it to refine your practice of presence rather than to justify perfectionism.
These shifts are not one-time affirmations. They require consistent practice, re-entry into rituals, and small acts of kindness toward yourself—especially when you backslide into old patterns, which you will. That’s okay. The path of inner work is non-linear.
How to create space to receive: the non-sleazy side of “allowing”
One misconception about feminine energy is that it’s passive or lazy. That’s not true. Feminine energy creates space deliberately so ideas, help, and abundance can flow in. It’s not about waiting for luck; it’s about making room for the life you want.
Rather than “waiting,” create structures that invite receiving:
Clear your calendar with intentional leave time where you don’t schedule calls
Make room for creative incubation: an afternoon walk, a bath, or a meditation that’s non-transactional
Create boundaries so your receptivity isn’t hijacked by other people’s emergencies
When you practice making space, the results can feel effortless because you’re working from alignment. Ideas come more easily. Connections show up. And the work you do produce is often higher quality because it was born from clarity rather than scarcity.
Parenting and feminine energy: reshaping legacy
Petia and I both reflect on how motherhood both fractures old patterns and creates a fierce clarity about what matters. Becoming a mother exposed hidden perfectionism and motivated change in a way nothing else did. There’s a fierce feminine that rises to protect a child’s experience of self-worth, and it becomes a powerful motivator for inner work.
Practical parenting applications:
Model self-compassion aloud—let your child hear you say, “I made a mistake and I can learn from it.”
Practice small rituals with your child that cultivate curiosity, not performance—play, messy art, and explorative walks.
Resist the urge to fix every feeling. Teach emotional literacy by naming sensations and feelings together.
Launching, selling, and marketing from feminine energy
One of the recurring concerns for entrepreneurs is how to market and sell without feeling icky. The feminine energy path offers a soul-centered approach to business: show up as the fullest expression of yourself, create from a place of knowing, and invite people in rather than forcing sales through fear-based tactics.
Practical business applications:
Create offers from curiosity—what problem do you feel called to solve?
Sell from clarity—if you know who you serve, selling becomes sharing rather than pleading.
Use mixed rhythms—combine strategic launches with periods of slow attraction and nurturing.
Stop copying—your unique voice is your currency. Perfectionism and comparison dilute it.
Simple practices to try this week
Morning trio: For seven days, answer three questions each morning:
What am I excited for?
What is one thing I will do for myself?
What am I grateful for?
Five-minute heart pause: Three times per day, place a hand on your chest and breathe five deep, slow breaths.
Capture shower notes: Keep a waterproof notepad or use your phone to capture three ideas that come to you in the shower.
One micro-boundary: Pick one thing to stop doing this week that drains you and reclaim that time for a restorative ritual.
Plan one “receive” block: Schedule 30 minutes where you accept help, receive inspiration, or simply rest.
When to seek help
Inner work is powerful, but sometimes you need a guide—especially when trauma, chronic perfectionism, or persistent self-criticism block your progress. If you find that your daily rituals become overwhelming or your emotions feel unmanageable, consider working with a therapist or coach who understands somatic and energetic tools. The episode highlights that mentors like Petia provide specific frameworks and support for integrating feminine energy into life and business.
How to begin if you’re skeptical about feminine energy
It’s normal to feel skeptical, especially when terms like feminine energy get co-opted into marketing. If you’re skeptical, begin with curiosity and experimentation. Try one micro-practice for a week and observe the impact. Note not just productivity metrics, but how you feel: less frantic, more creative, clearer about choices. The evidence you collect from your own experience is the most persuasive teacher.
How to keep momentum without perfectionism
Perfectionism kills momentum. Replace it with incremental progress and “show up” discipline rather than forcing results. Use a two-part commitment:
Commit to the practice (e.g., morning trio for 7 days).
Release attachment to outcome (let the practice inform you and adjust as seasons change).
When you do this, you combine the best of feminine energy—receptivity and curiosity—with healthy masculine structure—consistency and clear boundaries.
Wrap-up: a compassionate Reminder About Feminine Energy
Feminine energy is an invitation to come home to yourself. It asks you to make space, to sense, to receive, and to create from aligned inspiration. It’s not a rejection of structure or strategy; it’s a balancing act that allows strategy to come from clarity rather than scarcity. If you’re ready to shift from perfectionism to presence, start with small practices and compassionate curiosity. Notice how your business, your relationships, and your sense of self transform when you give yourself permission to be more of who you already are.
As Petia says, and as this conversation makes clear, the world needs your full expression—not a trimmed, fear-driven version of you. Your people will find you when you show up in your uniqueness. Start today: ask yourself what kind of rising fits this season, and give that to yourself without guilt.
If you leave this article with one practical takeaway, let it be this: you do not need to fix yourself to fit someone else’s standard. Start small. Reclaim space. Move between doing and receiving with compassion. Your gifts are your magnet—let them breathe, and watch as life, business, and relationships respond to a more humane, soulful way of operating. Feminine energy is not a weakness; it is a powerful, creative force that, when balanced with healthy structure, can transform how you live and lead.
Go get great—by being more of who you already are.
Frequently Asked Questions About Feminine & Masculine Energy
What is feminine energy and how does it differ from masculine energy?
Feminine energy is a way of being characterized by receptivity, creativity, sensuality, and spaciousness. It emphasizes feeling, intuition, and allowing inspiration to lead. Masculine energy is more about structure, focus, protection, and providing. Both are necessary: healthy masculine provides the container for feminine creativity to thrive, while wounded masculine fuels pushing, proving, and burnout. Balancing both enables soulful productivity and sustained wellbeing.
How can I tell if I am too much in the feminine or too much in the masculine?
If you’re too much in the feminine you may struggle with follow-through, consistency, or structure (e.g., inconsistent marketing or launching). If you’re too much in masculine—especially wounded masculine—you’ll likely feel chronic hustle, perfectionism, proving, and resistance to receiving. The antidote is to adopt small practices that bring in the opposite energy: sensory rituals for overstressed masculine patterns, and simple planning or embodiment for over-feminine patterns.
What are practical rituals to invite feminine energy into a busy day?
Practical rituals include a small morning trio of questions (What am I excited for? What is one thing I will do for myself? What am I grateful for?), five-minute heart-focused breathing breaks, sensory anchors like lighting a candle or using essential oils, capturing shower notes to seize inspiration, and spending brief moments barefoot in nature. Adjust ritual length to fit your season—five minutes can be deeply nourishing when sustained consistently.
Can feminine energy help with business and marketing?
Yes. Feminine energy supports business by fostering creativity, clarity, and authentic connection. When you show up as your full, imperfect self, you attract the people aligned with your message. Feminine energy pairs well with simple masculine structures—time-blocking, priority lists, and focused launches—to create soulful, sustainable business growth without constant hustle.
What if I have trauma or deep-seated perfectionism—will these practices be enough?
Micro-practices are helpful and can create meaningful change, but deep trauma or entrenched perfectionism may require professional support. Therapists, coaches, and somatic practitioners who work with breathwork, NLP, human design, and energy healing can offer tailored tools and safe containers for deeper integration. Seek experienced support if emotions feel overwhelming or immobilizing.
How do I start if I’m skeptical about energetic language like feminine energy?
Begin with experiment and observation. Choose one micro-practice and try it for a week. Track changes not just in productivity but in how you feel: less frantic, more creative, clearer decisions. If language like “feminine energy” feels strange, reframe it as embodied practices that help you access intuition, creativity, and rest. The direct evidence of your experience will guide you more than labels.
Go Get Great Episode 73 References
21 Days to Soulful Success Book https://www.amazon.com/Days-Soulful-Success-Prosperity-Transformation-ebook/dp/B0B9FBJ8Q4
Activation Process - https://petiakolibova.com/abundance-activation-process/
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00:00 Intro
4:30 Being hard on yourself
7:40 Working through emotions
9:45 Living in your femininity
10:30 Mindset
15:20 Balancing masculine and feminine energy
20:00 Inviting masculine or feminine energy into life
26:00 Wrap up
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